|Do you have what it takes to be a real man?
Real men know there is no excuse for abuse.
Real men value the women and children in their lives . . .
And they take a stand when others don't.
Did you know?
Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women.
- About half of all women will experience physical abuse in their lifetime.
- Women of all races and income levels are battered.
- 30% of all female murder victims were killed by an intimate partner, compared to 2% of all male murder victims.
- 3.3 to 10 million children witness domestic violence each year.
- 80 to 90% of children living in homes with domestic violence are aware of the violence.
- Children who witness violence may experience withdrawal, nightmares, self-blame, depression, low self-esteem, and developmental delays.
- Every 3 minutes, a child in Texas is reported abused or neglected.
Are you hurting someone you love?
- Do you belittle or ridicule of your partner in the guise of making fun?
- Do you verbally attack or accuse your partner?
- Do you have to know where your partner is at all times?
- Do you push, shove, or kick your partner?
- Is your partner ever afraid of you?
- Do you intentionally break or damage your partner's things?
- Do you keep your partner from seeing her friends and family?
Do you need help with your children?
- Do you feel overwhelmed around your children most of the time?
- Do you lose your temper around your children? Do you scream at them or hit them?
- Do you and your partner fight about your children?
- Has your child seemed anxious or nervous for some time?
- Has your child hurt animals or other children?
- Has your child's behavior or school work gotten significantly worse?
Help is Available
Pastoral Counseling and Education Center- 214-526-4525
The Family Place- 214-692-8295
New Beginning Center- 972-276-0057
Also see our Agencies and Phone Number page
Take a stand against family violence.
- Reach out to other men. Talk to men you know who are violent at home. Tell them their behavior is not acceptable, they need help, and you want to help them.
- Lead by example. Treat women and children with respect.
- Speak out against family violence. Let your friends and colleagues know that there is no excuse for abuse, and support public policies to address family violence.
- Be a role model to children. A positive male mentor offers support and teaches children that violence is not the way to solve problems.
- Confront sexist, racist, and homophobic comments and jokes.
- Examine your own attitudes and behavior toward women. Get help if you need it.
- Don't read, watch, or pay for music, movies, or magazines that degrade women, are pornographic, or promote violence against others.
- Donate time and resources. Make financial or in-kind donations to a local shelter, or participate in special events that benefit a family-serving organization.
- Make your workplace a safe place. See that policies and procedures are sensitive to victims of domestic violence.
Adapted from the Family Violence Prevention Fund, the White Ribbon Campaign, and the Violence Against Women Office.
Sources: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, Children's Defense Fund
The following web site is a comprehensive tool kit designed to help you work with men and boys to prevent gender-based violence. It provides readings, case studies, handouts, exercises, and other resources as well as community-building tools. We suggest following the Recommended Work Plan to fully explore these extensive materials, but you are free to go directly to the sections that address your priorities. http://endabuse.org/toolkit